I like relationships that require the most minimal amount of work but are just magic. People who you can endlessly talk to about depression/angst and general life buttfuckery, but then turn it around and talk to them about the time you had your period all over your crush’s beige car seat…without too much judgment for being a basic bitch.
Taking a break from the drudgery of this channel, I want to give a shout-out to my best friend. I was supposed to write this on international Friendship Day, but I forgot because I’m a bad friend. She is also the only female friend I’ve had in the last 6-7 years. We’re totally opposite but all our interests are the same. Which makes for funny situations when we find ourselves in the same part of the world. We’ve met up on several different continents, leading totally different lifestyles…yet somehow our friendship never changes.
Anyways, a few weeks ago I was at her place at a different city and we thought we’d go watch fireworks with her stoner friends. When it ended we had to get back to her house (11pm), now she’s the most scatter-brained person I’ve ever met. Long story short she forgot how to get back to her house and we basically wandered around till 4 am blisters and all. I’ve never hated a person more for making me wander around the downtown of a city I didn’t know. I guess it was pretty palpable because she said something to the effects of “in moments like these I forget that you have different boundaries than me”. And just those words cemented turned my mood around and I figured out why I adore her, she’s so extremely self-aware about everything. She’s perfectly content on waiting for a bus that might never show up, where as I would much prefer to call every taxi service in the city. People who recognize their faults and address them have the magic that I look for.
Even still, I couldn’t stand to be with her for extended periods of time. We both admitted that we’re good for each other in small doses. I admire our relationship simply because of its longevity. Men walk in and out of my life quite a bit, and I don’t mean in a whoreish way…they just do. It’s nice to find someone who will stickwitchu through it all.
She’s better than a therapist because she thinks about things that are important. Her mental stamina isn’t wasted on how much money she needs to make at the end of the month or what boy texts her back. Which, trust me, is a rarity in female friendships.
Inadvertently, I talk about her a lot on here, in my more serious posts. Yeah she’s a little kooky and way too into jam making, but I admire who she is and more importantly how she thinks.
You’ll never see this, but I want to put it out in the world just in case we ever fall out of touch. So thanks J, no matter where you are in the world I know we’ll always find each other <3 Love ya girl.
